Saturday, June 29, 2019

All About Morgan's Wedding!!

June 1st 2019
at 4:00 in the afternoon in Knoxville TN,
I'd like to introduce to you for the very first time,
Mr. and Mrs. Edgar and Morgan Guerra!

Morgan's wedding day was pure bliss and her and Edgar looked so happy! Morgan was absolutely the prettiest bride, she was stunning! They got married at Ebenezer United Methodist Church with the reception at Knoxville Museum of Art. Morgan used almost every single vendor I used which was really special and we danced the night away to Latin music until 8:30pm!



  

Before we go any further, I had to post this trio of pictures! All three of us in our veils on our wedding day! I think Morgan looks the most like mom when she got married!

So stunning!


Now I know I posted this schedule in the previous post but I wanted to put it up here again because I was the wedding coordinator (like I was for my own wedding), and schedules are key to a well run event! If you fail to plan, you plan to fail!

And Thursday night when we all came in after work, we sorted through everything and laid everything out for each day and event of the weekend. Edgar drove up to Kingsport Thursday day to move his car and stuff into Morgan's apartment once she got home from work. 

So as the schedule suggested, on Friday morning bright and early the three of us got our nails done across the street! We got french tips on our hands and our toes were based off of Morgan's color inspiration flower (you'll see)!

I hadn't gotten my nails done but three times in the last 12 years so this was a treat!

Next was Morgan's bridesmaids luncheon at noon! We raced in, changed clothes and just as we got downstairs, the guests arrived. I wish I had more pictures of the event but this is all I got! Gigi had the house looking so beautiful and aunt Steph made her famous lasagna! 

While we were gathering for 2 1/2 hours, the rest of Edgar's family was at Nana's clubhouse near the church setting up for the rehearsal dinner. 

After the luncheon and the walk to the dock, we rushed to change into our rehearsal/rehearsal dinner clothes and raced out the door to have the flower sneak peak below and to set the church up!

Morgan designed her bouquet from Melissa Timm and it didn't disappoint. Morgan loves color and that's just what she got! This bouquet weighed about 6 pounds which really gave Morgan an arm workout throughout the day!

The rehearsal started at 4:30pm and lasted until 6:30pm! It was an hour longer than mine! Morgan had a slightly larger wedding party than I did. 

Then we promptly went to the rehearsal dinner where Edgar's family had prepared authentic Mexican food! I left my phone in the car but Nana and Tonya did an amazing job decorating! I played the bride/groom game with Morgan and Edgar where they sit back to back and answer questions about each other using their shoes. If you don't know what i'm talking about search on Pinterest for this game! It was a blast!

We left there and hung out with the Dyar crew for about an hour after helping clean up and went back to Gigi's to set up for the big day!

The next day we woke up bright and early for our hair and makeup (at Beliza where Cody's cousin used to work) and promptly went back to Gigi's to get Morgan into her dress then to meet Edgar at worlds fair park for the first look and couple pictures.

While they were doing that, we packed up Morgan's car, got dressed ourselves, and drove Morgan's car and me and Cody's car to the church. Cody and I packed our car up too because we were spending the night at Nana's that night to spend more time with dad.

Both of us in the church on our wedding day with mama!

We took a lot of family pictures with the bridal party and family from 2:00-3:30pm before the 4:00pm wedding!

I couldn't help but make side-by-side similar pictures! The original Dyar clan! I can't believe we are all grown up and in this stage of life already!

The new "Dyars". It is so special our family just expanded. And who knows, in 5 years we will have little ones to keep adding to the picture. Life is so so good!


The core group ;). We will be in each others lives for a long long time, going on trips, visiting each other's houses, having our kids grow up as best friends/cousins together. It is going to be so special!

The Dyar girls!


Me and sister!


Had to recreate the same pic! A lot changes in 3 years! Time marches on....

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This bundle of snapdragons were the color inspiration for Morgan's whole wedding! I love it so much. The bridesmaids each had a bouquet of it!

Hurray!


This was the bridal suite before the big moment! We had a blast in there!

Morgan right before she walked down the aisle with her gummies!

***I will have more official pictures to post from the photographers later on from the ceremony and everything!*** Stay tuned!

After the ceremony, we all headed to the art museum for food, cake, and dancing!

Their cake even had colorful funfetti sprinkles in it!



Their sweet first dance to Lights Down Low. The Ogle DJ's were outstanding! They did an amazing job, I highly recommend them!


After the dance they got to eat a few bites and I said my Matron of Honor speech to Morgan and Edgar! I was a little nervous but very excited to share it!

Before I end the post, I had to share a close up of my hair that Abby from Beliza did for me! It was beyond perfect!

Morgan wanted to get a close up of the matron of honor dress! I matched the color of the junior bridesmaid.


Both of our leaving limo pics!!!!



Here we are with our INCREDIBLE photographers Tia and Shane! They are absolute rock stars! A few weeks ago Shane even saved the day officiating a couples wedding when their preacher got lost and couldn't make it on time! They are a rock star bunch and will even travel with you! Definitely book them for your next big occasion! They do a wide variety of occasions!

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Not to take away from Morgan but I had to add, in honor of Morgan and I being 3 years apart, and our wedding being almost EXACTLY 3 years apart (both of us married at 22), Cody and I celebrated our 3 year anniversary 3 days later! We had a nice dinner together and watched our favorite tv show and then on the next Saturday, we had our real celebration because the work week is so busy, and recovering from all of the wedding festivites. We started Saturday off sleeping in and cuddling, going to a late lunch at Bonefish, our favorite restaurant where we go every anniversary! This time they even gave us some chocolates for the special occasion!! Then we went to see Aladdin and came home to our anniversary presents!! We had a blast!

I got the bang bang Maine Lobster roll and scallops at Bonefish!


Aladdin was an amazing movie! (excuse our squinty eyes) We contemplated seeing the Dark Pheonix instead because we (I) love Marvel movies so much thanks to my dad:)!!! But I am very happy we went with Aladdin!


I gave Cody one of our beach pictures to fill our shell frame to go in our beach-themed guest room in the new house along with a sweet little wooden plank that says, 'And so together, they built a life they love'. That goes with our life theme for the next 5 years :). And of course I had to get him Reeses! To finish his gifts, I wrote a sweet card and got him a round pizza beach towel for the pool😅. 

Cody wrote me a sweet card, framed my 50 states map (you scratch off each state you have visited, I am at 18!), and a leather journal going with the traditional wedding gift lists.

I am so happy to basically share an anniversary with Morgan and Edgar, and Gigi and Granddad (theirs is June 6th).


Right now Morgan and Edgar are on their blissful honeymoon cruise right now to Cancun, the bahamas, and coco cay beach! We miss them but know they are having a blast!
Congrats Morgan and Edgar!!!!!! I love you both!! 
Edgar, welcome to the family bud!

***Stay tuned for another blog post on Morgan's professional wedding pictures from ST Photography coming soon!***

With so much love, 
Kayla Raborn
6/9/19


Sunday, June 9, 2019

Morgan's Wedding Prep!!!

So the weekend before the wedding, I drove up to Knoxville to do some last minute planning with Morgan and mom. We made our lists, prepared for the bridesmaids luncheon, rehearsal, rehearsal dinner, and organized our things into a Thursday box, Friday box, and Saturday box.
On Friday, Morgan and Edgar raced to get their marriage license with only 5 minutes to spare on the last day they could possibly get it 😅 cutting it close, then met with the reception venue planners for last minute details and finished off the day with Chuys.

To end the weekend of tying up loose ends, mom and I took Morgan to her "bachelorette" party. I use the term bachelorette loosely because we don't drink or believe in traditional bachelorette parties or bachelor parties. This is just our families preferences. For Edgar he went camping for 3 days with his groomsmen, when Cody and I got married he took his groomsmen to a field to throw the football and then chilled in the hotel pool and room together drinking root beer. I wanted to have a sleepover and jumpjam night with my bridesmaids but no one cared to do that with me because my bridesmaids were my cousins and not my friends, but for Morgan, we went to West Town mall and got dip n dots and pretzels and ended the night with a much needed, relaxing game of putt-putt, Morgan's favorite! 
We of course had to get Morgan a bride-to-be sash and I grabbed a quick Matron of Honor hat!




We went to Sir Gooney's in Knoxville. Best putt-putt place in town!

(The bridesmaids didn't come to the showers either because she has the same bridesmaids that I had and we both didn't have a single one of them at either of our two showers. I'm not bitter, you're bitter. But seriously😑😒 #beyondannoyed) One is excused because she lives very far away). 

Anyways, this is about Morgan. So after putt-putt, the next day, we made Morgan's practice bouquet out of her shower present bows for the rehearsal. Look how pretty it turned out!


I took every picture under the moon but didn't manage to get one of Gigi and Morgan on my phone. They were taken on Gigi's actual camera to forever not be seen by me. Sorry! Gigi and mom were the ones who actually made it. I just was the coach on the sidelines ha. 

Since it was Memorial Day weekend, we all didn't work on Monday so Morgan and I worked 3 days this week (taking off Friday, and Mom and Cody were already out for school). 

We arrived back at Gigi's house Thursday night gearing up ready for the best weekend ever! Dad flew in Tuesday before the wedding with the rest of the out of town wedding guests arriving Thursday morning. 

Friday morning we began the strict schedule:
Life is so much smoother with a well-planned schedule! :)

Friday went off without a hitch, we got our nails done in time, the bridal luncheon was amazing thanks to Gigi, and we decorated the church and the Museum (reception place) after the luncheon and before the rehearsal at the church. The rehearsal dinner was so neat! Mixing the two cultures together and having a taste of authentic Mexican food was a special treat! They had the rehearsal dinner in the clubhouse in Nana's neighborhood. Nana did a great job setting everything up Thursday night and Friday morning! We ended the rehearsal with a fun game I made of he said/ she said. Morgan and Edgar sat back to back holding each other's shoes answering questions about each other by holding up each other's shoe!

The next morning it was go time! Everything was in place and the schedule was followed as planed. 

I had my printed out Maid of Honor speech ready and followed Morgan around all day making sure everything was going smoothly. I have has such fun being the wedding coordinator for my own wedding and now Morgan's! 

Morgan and Edgar are going on a cruise for their Honeymoon but are leaving a week after the wedding. So the wedding night they are staying in a hotel in Gatlinburg with a lazy river in it! So cool!

I wish Morgan and Edgar the very best! I am so happy for them and so excited for their future!!! They will live in Johnson City where Morgan has been for her Eastman job since January. Edgar starts his 2 years left of his bachelors degree at ETSU in July and they are bringing Edgar's dog Maya, a husky, to live with them the weekend after they get back from their cruise.

Here's to the happy couple of 8 years!!!
Cody and I can't wait for many many double dates in the future!

With so much love,
Kayla Raborn- Matron of Honor
6-1-9

P.S.- Morgan and I are 3 years apart and our weddings are almost exactly 3 years apart (with Cody and I celebrating our 3rd anniversary on June 4th). Morgan is almost 23 when they get married and I was days away from 23 years old also when I married Cody. So crazy!

P.S.S.- Stay tuned for the next month when we get Morgan's actual wedding pictures back and I will be sharing them with you here on the blog! :)

Monday, May 27, 2019

Morgan's Bridal Showers!

🎕Morgan's Bridal Shower!!🎕

It's wedding week for Morgan! In honor of 5 days left on the countdown, here are some highlights of Morgan's showers!!

April Shower
Morgan celebrated her first bridal shower a few weekends ago! Ebenezer United Methodist church in Knoxville threw it for her (the same church I grew up visiting with Nana, and that threw my shower for me, and that my mom works at, and that Morgan will be getting married at too)! It was such a beautiful shower with our church family. 

Its hard to believe in the exact same spot I had my shower 3 years ago. Time sure flies.


Nana, Gigi, Mom, and I loved helping Morgan collect her gifts and playing the bridal games!


From left to right, pastor Ann, my mama, and Nancy Twigg.


The sweet sweet church ladies!

Ann has such a special place in our heart! She means the world to us!

The sweet treats Denise put together for Morgan.


Morgan received the sweetest most thoughtful gifts! It was so much fun being her matron of honor writing down everything Morgan got!

On a semi-unrelated note, Morgan was recognized at church for her college graduation (this past December) and her awesome job at Eastman! We are so proud of her and loved hearing Ann's sweet words about her!







Go Morgan!!

And here we have Morgan's updated pre-wedding hair! We tried hair styles and highlights this weekend! 27 days (as of 5/5/19) until the big day!!!!

The same weekend we celebrated the Derby and the most peculiar win. It will sure go down in history.


I was Derby ready with my hat though! It has always been my dream to go to the Derby in person. Cody and I plan on going in 2021! Mark my words!!! 

We then walked Sasha and the weekend was over before we knew it. This time of year is so fun and this season of life is SO EXCITING. Only good things from here!

God is so so so so so good!

May Shower
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Her next shower was thrown by Gigi's best friends in Chattanooga having all of our friends and family at. It was such a neat set up! They are always such amazing people doing this for us, they threw my shower for me 3 years ago!

This shower was so incredibly exciting also!!! I had been anticipating it for weeks and was thrilled to host and make the games. Two weekends before, I spent 6 hours making and printing out the two PERFECT bridal shower games! The night before the shower, I got everything all ready and wrapped my own present for Morgan!

The next day it was time for the shower at noon! Mom and Morgan picked me up (because they stayed overnight in a hotel near by) and we headed of course, in the pouring rain, to Morgan's shower destination. 

Morgan looked so incredibly stunning! She is a gorgeous bride!

We walked into gorgeous decorations and the delicious food already prepared!

The Dyar girls

Dyar girls again haha!

Beautiful setup of the room!

After eating and socializing, it was time to play the games. We played how well do you know the bride for us to all answer the 20 questions on our sheets and the winner gets a starbucks gift card or a Chick-fil-a gift card! 

The next game was how well did Edgar and Morgan know each other. Behind the scenes, I asked them each 15 questions about each other writing down their answers and then at the shower sharing with them what each other answered and how close their answers were to what was correct. It was a hilarious game and they did pretty great!!!

Then it was time to open presents!! I was the 'book keeper' again writing down everything each person gave Morgan. She got a lot of amazing gifts!!



Then Morgan opened the present I gave her! I gave Morgan a Wedding Day survival kit filled with everything she might need for the day of the wedding from extra make up, chap stick, baby powder, gum, snacks, dress tape, etc. 

After presents we said goodbye to everyone and helped the hosts clean up. They went all out and were so sweet to throw Morgan and I showers!!!

Of course after the shower, I treated myself with my FAVORITE flavor of boba tea from the best boba tea place in town, Tai Chi, strawberry yogurt boba.

We then continued with our Mother's Day celebration with mama since she had to be in Knoxville for teaching church. 

We ran some wedding errands, I gave mom her Mother's day card and 3 mega packs of her favorite mint chocolate chip ice cream flavored gum, and we ate at Chop House to celebrate her! I am so grateful for my mama and how much she loves Morgan and I!!!*more details about the day on instagram*

The next day we celebrated with Cody's mom and ate with the Raborn family at an Italian place in Hixson. 

What an amazing weekend!


With so much love,
Kayla Raborn
5/27/19







Sunday, May 5, 2019

Career/Personal Development: Crucial Conversations

*Ideas from Crucial Conversations Participant Toolkit VitalSmarts*

Welcome to Career Development,
Crucial Conversations!

Somewhere in our 20's we begin our career for the rest of our life navigating through many new things and areas of our life! This will be a many part series focusing on many different aspect to help grow your career, personal development, confidence, and success! Please enjoy my thoughts and different tips and aspects from career development classes I have attended and books I have read!

Crucial conversations are something we have on a weekly basis whether at home or at work! It is an important skill to be able to communicate effectively to have a successful crucial conversation and where the other party feels like they are heard too.

These are the basic steps to have an effective, necessary, crucial conversation.
  1. Start with clear intentions
  2. Safe environment
  3. Face the problem 
  4. Motives
  5. Listen
  6. Perspective
  7. Action plan
  8. Practice 

Lets elaborate:


1. Start with clear intentions
Be clear, concise, and up-front stating the problem and/or intention of the meeting. Be consensus not to veer off topic when uncomfortable dialog arises. Never avoid problems; face the elephant in the room. If the conversation becomes emotional, ask to continue the next day and come back with an action plan and a clearer head on both sides. If you ever need help starting a crucial conversation, begin with the 5 essential building block questions: 1.Where are we?   2.What's working?    3.What's not working?    4.What's next?   5. What do you need from me?

2. Safe environment
Make sure both parties feel comfortable in the environment. Both parties have a seat facing each other keeping the door cracked. Have a comfortable posture that is inviting rather than confrontational. If this is an extreme case, even invite your HR manager to join the meeting. Ensure the other person's trust by stating whatever is spoken will be spoken in confidence and will not be shared; focus on building trusting relationships on both sides. Vulnerability is vital in crucial conversations, often, growth can't occur unless some level of vulnerability is shared. Also never have a crucial conversation 1-on-1 meeting longer than an hour. If this is the case, this needs to be broken up into segments.

3. Face the problem
Face the problem head on, don't beat around the bush. You will earn the respect of your coworkers when this is practiced. This shows you realize there is a problem at hand and you care about what the other person has to say and want to fix it. By facing the problem head on, this shows confidence and emphasizes the importance of the matter. Some debate is good but never allow arguing to arise. *If this is a crucial conversation about a promotion or such, disregard this step*.

4. Motives 
Check your motives. This should go without being said, simply be a good person with pure intentions. Don't be a jerk, this will get you nowhere, and if you do, people will learn to resent you in your position of power and intentionally or unintentionally work against the cause. Be a team player; this is your group and if one person hurts, you all hurt.

5. Listen
Learning to listen. As a boss this is EXTREMELY crucial in building your employees trust and ensuring them that what they have to say matters. Comment and address their statements or worries after they are done talking or when there is an appropriate pause in the dialog waiting for you to respond. This skill may be the most powerful tool in gaining trust and solving problems.

If your employee struggles to speak up or feel heard, ask them directly what they need. Empower them to speak up by suggesting you will intentionally ask their opinion in a meeting, or giving social recognition when due. Be their advocate. If you are on the employee side of not feeling heard, ask your boss these questions of how he can help give you a voice in meetings and such.

6. Perspective
Put yourself in the other person's shoes. You can always learn a great amount from another person's perspective and imagining how they might feel in that situation. This will give the insight you need to find a solution that not only benefits you but the other person. And if it's not a quick fix, state that! Be honest and continually work towards a solution together. It may even be an ongoing effort, and that's ok!

7. Action plan
Make an action plan. Nothing can be learned or fixed unless there is a plan to move forward. Bridge that gap of understanding and pave the way together creating steps to fix the problem at hand. Make a clear, concise, and achievable goal together and actually follow through.  Have weekly 1:1's to touch base on the goals and milestones you both set and reach!

8. Practice
Practice makes progress, practice as many conversations or crucial conversations with people you trust such as in your family or your spouse. This will not only help strengthen your relationship but will teach you how to handle tough situations in a smooth successful manner. Conversations with family can be the toughest sometimes, especially when emotions are high and situations are important, so this will be great practice!


I know this is all easier said than done but if you practice on how to effectively have a crucial conversation, it will become second nature and you will have a happy, successful, confident, and fulfilled team!


Love always and best wishes,
Kayla Raborn

5/5/19