So we had our anatomy scan on lucky leap day 😒and baby boy is healthy and that's all that matters but what we did find caught us completely off guard.
Conner needed a brother so God gave us a second boy, and Conner needed a clubfoot buddy so God gave him just that. Our second little guy has clubbed feet💔, the exact same as Conner as it seems. These last few weeks have been really tough with more ultrasounds trying to figure out what was going on. To have literal picture and video proof of perfect feet 2 ultrasounds and 2 months in a row then for our anatomy scan to have severe clubbed feet. Our doctor and clubfoot doctor have been concerned because that's literally impossible (clubfoot develops at 9 weeks not 19) and in a months time they twisted in.
Just like with Conner I just didn't even want to share this finding. Conner had a 50% chance of clubfoot and this baby had 65% chance. Bad odds. I can't bear to face the comments how it's not a big deal, or at least he's healthy or this is meant to be or at least we've done it before. That minimizes our experience and challenges. I am grateful he is healthy and this truly isn't a big deal but what is the most upsetting part of all of this is not just what's in front of us, now not one but both of my sons will have sons with clubbed feet since Cody's family can't have girls and apparently has some sort of gene mutation with this condition. It just never ends. Knowing I would never have a daughter, I always prayed I would be close with my daughter in laws and I will get just that, I will be the only one that truly knows how to help their boys in their first very difficult 9 months of life. I can't wait to be their ally and shower them with my unique help and knowledge.
I can't believe we are going through this again, and my baby has to endure this for life. I see the consequences this has on Cody daily and how it impacts literally every area of his life. He is constantly in excruciating pain and can't do what he wants a lot of the time.
We had 2 incredible months imagining life having a normal newborn experience and just the normal challenges and joys that come with that. If this was always the outcome, I guess I'm so glad I was given that.
I guess the prayers we need right now are, since God turned his feet when it literally is impossible, maybe to pray He can fix them back by delivery? I literally don't know what else to think? And that everything else remains healthy
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.This time around I will share more in-depth of the casts being taken off (by us, yes, insane), and put on, and the weekly challenges this little guy overcomes.
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Basically what the last 4D ultrasound we had found that baby has a right skewed foot exactly like Conner and a left fully clubbed foot, exactly like Conner. Baby even looks exactly like Conner and has that cute dimple on his chin. I think they will be twins in more ways than I could have imagined.
I don't know how I'll manage all of the first 9 month clubfoot treatment with a toddler running around too that I have to keep alive. Those first 9 months are so extensive and I can't take baby outside and get his casts sweaty when Conner wants to play. And all of this during football season when Cody isn't here.
We're just heartbroken. We found out with certainty that Conner had a clubbed foot at his 16 week scan and the anatomy scan just confirmed it. This baby had perfect feet at 16 weeks then severely clubbed feet at 20 weeks. That just isn't possible. We will find out even more at our 30 week ultrasound at our doctors appointment and our 36 week ultrasound. The problem is baby is breech (just like Conner was) so it's extremely difficult to see his feet for long periods of time to really get a good look at them move. Clubbed feet can't stretch out and skewed feet can, so if we can just get his left foot to stretch out, then that answers our questions that it's skewed and the treatment plan for 2 skewed feet is very different from clubbed feet. That would also make sense why they were straight at 12 and 16 weeks and all of a sudden not. And if they truly are clubbed then we may never know why this all happened exactly the way it did and his feet were normal and now they are not, we just pray this is all that is going on an otherwise baby is healthy.
Kayla
2/29/24
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